I've always felt like everyone else is a better mother than I am (and no, this isn't a search for a "whatever, you're a GREAT mom!" comment!). I'm in awe of the women out there who don't want to send their kids to kindergarten or preschool b/c they will miss spending time with them or just want to keep them home. And I'm in awe of the women who do daily crafts and who are on top of the chore charts, and whose 4 year olds are already reading and computer savvy. I'm impressed with the women who are able to get up at 6:30am with their kids and get their exercise and shower done with a hot breakfast on the table (you know who you are!!), and with the women who want to stay home but have to work to make ends meet. I know that no two mothers have the same circumstances or personalities, but I do spend a good portion of my time feeling guilty that I'm not as successful as I can be as a mother.
However, I watched this today and cried. Hard. It didn't make me feel more guilty; on the other hand, it uplifted me and inspired me to be greater. I read an article in a magazine the other day about how women all over the world aren't satisfied with their careers because they aren't fulfilling them emotionally. The article said that the majority of women want to make a difference in the world and want to find careers that didn't necessarily make them more money but brought them more emotional fulfillment. And all I could think was, "HELLO??!!! That's why we are meant to be MOTHERS!" And I know that not all women get an opportunity to be mothers, but we all have opportunities to be nurturers. Motherhood is hard work and full of guilt sometimes, but the rewards are immeasurable. If you disagree with me, so be it. But I have had my testimony of motherhood strengthened and reaffirmed so many times in the last few months.
(I removed the video b/c the code changed it to another video which makes no sense with my blog post!!)
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That was awesome! I think all moms need that kind of reminder. Thanks for sharing that.
Loralee - I just LOVE you, and I hope you know that! I had seen this MM before but didn't sit down to watch it so thank you for making me watch it! There's so many mothers that I admire and wish to have their patience, their energy, and their spirituality. But it's most important to know that motherhood is from God and it's only through him that I can be "just right" for my kids. Sometimes, that's leaving laundry all over the front room and dancing to silly songs with them. I couldn't do that in the workplace! Thank you for sharing.
I have totally been avoiding what this because I knew I would cry through it...and I did. I love it! And it was just what I needed to hear!
ok, now i'm bawling too!!! i really needed to hear that today. Come and play soon! i miss you. love you! thanks for putting this out there!
Regardless of what you perceive about yourself, being a great mother is achieved in 'little moments,' not in how much you can do, remember that. It is the everyday mundane things that help define you; it is being there everyday - whether you are pulling your hair out or crying because you are feeling the JOY that comes from being a mother.
Take a big deep breath my little girl - you are doing great.
Loralee, i just came home from a Power of Moms book club (really its an article club) and it is so nice to be surrounded by other moms who love and embrace their job to be mothers. thank you for your thoughts about motherhood and for recognizing what a priviledge and responsibility we have as mothers. POM is great! you should look into starting a group because there's some good articles and good discussions. take care!
april
http://www.powerofmoms.com/
So I should've asked a while ago, what article this is because I want to read it. I too was one of those Moms who tried to be everything and it was hard when I worked until Gage was 3. I think most Moms wish they could give more time, more hugs, more projects and everything to their kids.. or at least lets hope they all do;) I'd love to check this out though. Hope all is well and Dave is getting adjusted to dentistry there.
You're slacking on your blogging. Get with it, Supermom. ;)
I agree, you are slacking. Your hand needs therapy, and typing is just the thing that will help.
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